Posts tagged ‘same-sex equality’

To wedding or not. Lucky you have a choice

You might have read about a het couple in the Britain who want to have a civil union but not a marriage because homosexuals can’t get “married” in the UK and are limited to civil unions, and they think all enjoined couples should have the same right/choice to marry. Never mind that it is part campaign and part romantic and nearly all about policy. I can see what they’re on about and if they get the law changed to recognise gay marriage then good for them. But I’d prefer if marriage as an institution was scrapped altogether and we get back the real meaning of marriage, i.e. a contract between adults to share body and material comfort, then we’d see how popular it would really be.

But in the wider view, the fight for gay marriage is, of course, about non-discrimination and the right to be trapped by state laws.  In the diehard campaign for the right for us to be married, here’s another no less poignant site that seeks to keep the fight alive and to overturn the hardline that is the defining symbol of us vs them.

The Potential Wedding album wants pictures of gay couples who really really want that jeweller’s certificate.  I think I’ll get C to sign up so we can be in cute company.

In the meantime, let’s all live happily de facto and have the same rights as married couples bar the wedding bills and licence.

[PWA via a lovely piece by Dick Gross]


November 15, 2010 at 9:30 am Leave a comment

Prop 8 case – tweet by tweet

I don’t use twitter and unfortunately, it looks like the decision to post the Prop 8 hearing on YouTube has been stayed, but you can follow updates on the hearing via several links, including this one and this.

And from our own Prof of Law at CUNY, the writerly Ruthann Robson, is a post on the level of scrutiny the court might employ in relation to the arguments.

January 12, 2010 at 10:51 am Leave a comment

Reasons not to marry

No one should be allowed to get married. Ever. But we are fighting for equity and that includes the bad as well as… the badder.
This here list of sarcastic arguments against gay marriage has been circulating on the net in one form or other. Feel free to add more points.
28 Reasons to Oppose Gay Marriage

1. Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control.

2. Marriage is valuable because it produces children, which is why we deny marriage rights to infertile couples and old people.

3. Obviously, gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.

4. Straight marriage, such as Britney Spears’ 55-hour escapade, will be less meaningful if gay marriage is allowed.

5. Marriage has been around a long time and hasn’t changed at all: women are property, matches are arranged in childhood, blacks can’t marry whites, Catholics can’t marry Jews, divorce is illegal, and adultery is punishable by death.

6. Gay marriage should be decided by people, not the courts, because majority-elected legislatures have historically protected the rights of minorities.

7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That’s why we have only one religion in America.

8. There is no separation between religious marriage and legal marriage, because there is no separation of church and state.

9. Devout, faithful Anglicans should never accept same-sex marriage, because it is an affront to the traditional family values upheld by Henry VIII and his wife, Catherine of Aragon, and his wife, Anne Boleyn, and his wife, Jane Seymour, and his wife, Anne of Cleves, and his wife, Catherine Howard, and his wife, Catherine Parr. They all knew the meaning of marriage and none of them lost their heads over the matter.

10. Married gay people will encourage others to be gay, in a way that unmarried gay people do not.

11. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because dogs have legal standing and can sign marriage contracts.

12. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to legislative change in general, which could possibly include the legalization of polygamy and incest. Because we don’t know what comes next, we should never change our laws.

13. Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That’s why single parents are forbidden to raise children.

14. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven’t adapted to things like suburban malls and tupperware parties.

15. Legal marriage will inspire gays to mimic the straight traditions of spiritual commitment ceremonies and celebratory parties, which is currently impermissible for them to do and which they have never done before.

16. Marriage is designed to protect the well-being of children. Gay people do not need marriage because they never have children from prior relationships, artificial insemination or surrogacy, or adoption.

17. Civil unions are a good option because “separate but equal” institutions are always constitutional. In fact, compared with marriage, civil unions are so attractive that straight people are calling dibs on them.

18. A man should not be able to marry whomever a woman can marry, and a woman should not be able to marry whomever a man can marry, because in this country we do not believe in gender equality.

19. If gays marry, some of straight people’s tax dollars would end up going to families whose structure they may find morally objectionable. Clearly, it is more just to continue taking gay people’s tax dollars to support straight families, who are going to heaven regardless of what anyone else thinks of them.

20. Gays should hold off on the marriage question until society is more accepting of them, because they are not part of society.

21. The people’s voice must be heard on this issue. Therefore, we must have a referendum on a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage, because we can’t think of any other way to discuss the issue.

22. Each state should decide for itself whether gay marriage will be recognized, because there is no “full faith and credit” clause that requires states to recognize each other’s institutions.

23. Gay marriage attempts to replace natural heterosexual instinct with a cultural institution. Morality demands that we subordinate institutionalized commitment to raw, unfettered, biological impulse.

24. Gay marriages could very well suffer maladies like domestic violence and substance abuse. That’s why we invented the Quality Control department to pre-approve the righteousness of all marriage applicants, such as convicted serial killer Richard Ramirez who married a woman while on Death Row.

25. Those who support gay marriage aim to overthrow the dominant culture, as evidenced by their enthusiasm to participate in it.

26. The country can’t afford to provide benefits for married gay couples. That’s why Bush would never consider spending $150 million on programs that encourage more straight people to get married.

27. Gay couples do not deserve marriage because, if everyone on earth limited themselves to same-sex sexual behavior, humanity would soon be extinct. Based on the same concern, we also deny marriage rights to the biologically childless and to those who have borne only one child. (We are also considering denying marriage rights to those who have borne three or more children, because if everyone copied them, the world population would shoot through the roof.)

28. Marriage was created in the Bible as a bond between a man and a woman. The people who lived prior to the writing of the Bible, such as the Chinese, sat around in confusion for many years until the Mesopotamians finally came around and invented the family unit.

October 26, 2009 at 12:26 am 7 comments

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